Before Charlie was born I was pretty good at juggling the demands of daily life, I didn’t get everything done that I wanted to each day but I did get the majority of my to do list done on most days. Those days and weeks after he was born I wasn’t very concerned with my to do list because I knew what my job was then – getting to know my baby and making sure he was happy and healthy. When I got closer to returning to work I felt the itch to be, to do and back came my lists, though they didn’t flow as easily and crossing those tasks off seemed harder than I ever remembered. Then came the fifth trimester, without a doubt one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Everything was clunky and delayed – personal and professional – and to a type A person who’s used to figuring things out quickly this was awful. I was so torn between getting things done around the house, being a good wife, proving to work that I was committed and worth being part of the team, and engaging my child in meaningful moments. I’m finally feeling like I’ve got my head on straight and I can’t say for certain if it’s because I’m doing things better or if I’m just being smarter about it all.
My dear friend Rachel at the Foodish Blog had a great post along these same lines – who does it all, and what does that look like for them?? I know for certain that doing it all these days is about being flexible and creative. Like having groceries or household staples delivered to the house instead of adding another trip in the triple digit heat, or scrapping the zucchini fritter (worth noting she called the post ‘so simple a kid can make it’) idea for sautéed zucchini because the fritters just aren’t cooperating.
Using Rachel’s lead, here’s my list of what doing it all would mean to me:
- Sleep, either sleeping through or only getting up to check on Charlie once
- 30 minute workout while the boys sleep followed by a speed cleaning session
- Sit down breakfast with Carver and Charlie before work
- 30 minute dog walk with Charlie and the pups
- Look put together – hair, make up, cute outfit
- Story and playtime with Charlie
- Productive day at work – plenty of time to see my patients and work on some of the other projects I have going on
- More play time with Charlie and the pups while Carver and I make dinner
- TV and another speed cleaning session with Carver followed by packing our bags and getting food ready for the next day
- 30 minutes of writing
- 30 minutes of reading before bed
What about you? What would ‘doing it all’ look like for you? Below are some snap shots of personal victories and set backs over the past week.